Ok, you're right...that number belongs to "Jenny" (from the 1982 Tommy Tutone song) not Doreen, but if you don't know Doreen's phone number, now is the time to learn it. (360) 629-4398. My mom has never turned away a visitor, even when she should. There have been times when her white counts were low, she wasn't feeling well, or she was simply just too exhausted to talk yet she never tells any of you. Now, that must change. As our family transitions into this next phase of the cancer process there will be times when vistors simply won't be allowed in the house. With that being said, if you are one of the people who stop by without calling ahead, you might see a "No Visitors" sign on the door. It might be because she isn't feeling well, or it might be because she is out doing something fun, but nonetheless, when the sign is on the door please respect her wishes and come back a different day.
After meeting with her hospice team again today mom has agreed to make some changes to the way she has been doing things. She has always shared her thoughts with us about end of life care and how she wants things to be handled. The immediate family has known, but now mom understands that these types of messages need to be shared with all of you as well. She doesn't want us to "look like the bad guy" when we stop allowing visitors or ask someone to leave the house who isn't creating a comforting environment for the family. We know her wishes and by now you must know that we will do whatever she desires.
This message isn't meant to be dark and depressing. Mom is fine. Nothing is different in the past week. Sure, her coughing is getting worse, but everything else is the same. We are not discussing signs on the door to discourage you from seeing her... we just want you to call ahead to make sure the timing is good. At this point, it's all about mom. Lots of people want their "Dor time" but Dor only has so much energy. So... the point of tonight's blog post is to say pick up the phone and call ahead between the hours of 10am and 8pm. Ten seems to be her wake up time and unfortunately 2 or 3am seems to be her bedtime half of the time, but 8pm is "closing time" at the Schmitt house.
Thank you for understanding and respecting her wishes, and she looks forward to talking to you soon-